My teen is Pregnant

Your daughter is pregnant and either she has already told you or you suspect that she is, or maybe it’s about your son fathering a child.
When you were pregnant, this is not one of those things you wished for. But it happens every day to teenagers around the world.
If your teen is about to become a mother or father, it can be overwhelming for all of you.
You have come here either after your huge argument about it, or wondering if your reactions could land you in jail.
What else should you expect or how can you support your child and family through the challenges that lie ahead?

What you may be Feeling

You’re probably experiencing a wide range of emotions, from shock and disappointment to anger and worry about the future.
Some parents feel a sense of guilt, thinking that if only they’d done more to protect their child this wouldn’t have happened. And although some parents are embarrassed by their teen’s pregnancy and worried about how family, friends, and neighbors will react, others are happy about the news of a soon-to-be grandchild — especially if the teen is older and in a mature relationship.
Whatever feelings you’re experiencing, this is likely to be a difficult time for your family. The important thing is that your teen needs you now more than ever. Being able to communicate with each other — especially when emotions are running high — is essential. Teens who carry a baby to term have special health concerns, and your daughter will have a healthier pregnancy — emotionally and physically — if she knows she doesn’t have to go it alone.
So what can you do as the parent of a teen having a baby? Recognize your feelings and work through them so that you can accept and support her. Does that mean you don’t have the right to feel disappointed and even angry? No. Such reactions are common. You might have a strong flood of emotions to deal with, especially at first. But the reality of the upcoming baby means that you’ll have to get beyond your initial feelings for the sake of your daughter and her child.
If you need help coping with your feelings about the situation, talk to someone you trust or seek professional counseling. A neutral third party can be a great resource at a time like this

What your Teen May be Feeling

Just a short time ago your kid’s biggest problems could have been hanging out with her friends and wondering what clothes to wear. Now she’s dealing with morning sickness, doctor visits and not being able to finish school. Her world has been turned upside down.
Most unmarried teens don’t plan on becoming pregnant, and they’re often terrified when it happens. Many, particularly younger teens, keep the news of their pregnancies secret because they fear the anger and disappointment of their parents. Some might even deny to themselves that they are pregnant — which makes it even more important for parents to step in and find medical care for their teen as early in the pregnancy as possible. Younger teens’ pregnancies, in particular, are considered high risk because their bodies haven’t finished growing and are not yet fully mature.
Teen boys who are going to become fathers also need the involvement of their parents. Although some boys may welcome the chance to be involved with their children, others feel frightened and guilty and may need to be encouraged to face their responsibilities (the father is legally responsible for child support in every state).
That doesn’t mean, however, that you should pressure your teen son or daughter into an unwanted marriage or an abortion. Offer advice, but remember that forcing your opinions on your teen or using threats is likely to backfire in the long run. There have been many examples of teens taking matters into their own hands and doing foolish or deadly things because of fear of their parents.
There’s no “one size fits all” solution here. Open communication between you and your teen will help as you consider the future.

Options

Your teen has many options ahead of them.from going back to school as a young parent or giving the child up for adoption. See list of options here… and share this site with your teen and remember, this is your future grand child. Give her mother (or father) guidance and support so they may end up in a position that allows them to be responsible and independent parents

Role Models

There are teenage parents and children of teenage parents who have been able to take these challenges and turn them around with information on their choices and guidance and support from loved ones. See this list, so you can assure yourself that it is possible to overcome this, you should recognize a face or two.