The range of feelings you may have about becoming a parent normal. Some may be positive, some may be negative and some downright hair raising. It is normal to have mood swings during pregnancy, and everyone responds differently to these changes. Some moms-to-be experience heightened emotions, both good and bad; others feel depressed or anxious. Some find that moodiness flares up at around 6 to 10 weeks, eases up and then reappears as their pregnancy winds to a close. Others feel as though they are being controlled by some external force. And a few don’t feel different at all.
Pregnancy can be a stressful and overwhelming time. You may be overjoyed at the thought of having a baby one day, and then just as quickly begin wondering what you’ve gotten yourself into. You may be worried about whether you’ll be a good mom, whether the baby will be healthy, and how the cost of adding a child to your household will affect your family’s future finances. And you may worry about how your relationship with your partner and your other children will be affected and if you’ll still be able to give them the attention they need.
Even babies who are very much planned, at times may raise mixed feelings about the pregnancy and what is ahead. That’s not surprising, considering that the expectations we set for parents are so high, and the pressure starts even before the baby is born.
You may be constantly wondering:
- Am I reading the right books?
- Am I buying the right products?
- Am I eating the right foods?
- Can I do this?
- Will I be a good mom?
In the meantime, because of your body’s changes and you may be feeling unattractive. You may be also worried about putting on too much weight or looking “fat” as your body expands to accommodate pregnancy, while at the same time feeling that you can’t exercise as much as you might want to or used to. Trust us when we say “your doctor knows best”, and any concerns about your weight and what is acceptable should be discussed with him or her.
Finally, the physical symptoms of pregnancy, such as heartburn, fatigue, and frequent urination, can also be a burden. It’s not uncommon to feel like you’ve lost control over your body and your life during this time. All these concerns may add to the roller-coaster ride your emotions are taking you on.
Remember, although every pregnancy is different and unique in its own way. All mothers-to-be experience doubt and then stress about it at one time or another. This is normal. Sometimes we need to be reminded that the physical changes we are experiencing are necessary for the life we are creating. If you are concerned or alarmed about anything, talk to someone; a best friend, a parent, your partner or your doctor.
Last but not least… the gift you receive at the end of this ride… there is nothing else in the world like it! Hang in there.